You Are The World

"We all have two choices, you can either 

"define yourself as a victim of the world, 

or you can to understand that 

you are the world."

                                         -Allan Watts

Everything we see around us is an absolute reflection of our inner world. All the likes and dislikes to some degree live inside of us. I think it's a nice realisation. A good thing to know, that everywhere you look, you get a guidance of where you stand in your life.  It is like looking in the mirror, you are getting a reflection of yourself, so is looking at your life you are getting a reflection of your inner world. If your life is a mess, unhappy relationship, life sucking job, bad health, too much partying, and you know when it's too much, it's a good signpost that your inner world has been left unattained for some time. On the other hand, seeing beauty in your life, keeping your living space clean, eating heathy diet plus regular movement, means you are keeping your life in good balance. You can start to look at your life's events as lessons to help you get to know yourself better and release the unnecessary energy that anger, fear, resentment and victimhood caries.


We all have felt sorry for ourselves at one point or another in our lives, no exceptions. Of course I don't have any scientific evidence to support that, and neither I have had a chance to ask everybody if that's true, I still believe that we all have felt like victims and we know what victimhood is. For somebody it's family who didn't love and support, so now they have a good excuse to don't do shit, for some it's the always guilty boyfriend/girlfriend who never pays attention and just does things wrong, for some it's just life, just the supper unfair life. And all you keep wondering is "Why? Why? Why me? " Oh, poor you and me, right? I don't know what is it about this victim mentality, but once you start feeling sorry for yourself you get sucked in deeper and deeper, and soon enough everything in life seems to work against you. It's like a drug, at first you feel fine because you weren't responsible for that thing that happened bet then it's downfall form there because you feel out of control and helpless, and who likes that felling, right? I know it because I've been in a victimhood fan club for many years. Life just seemed difficult and unfair. And the worst thing is, that even if I was living a good life, which I really was, being in a victim mentality often didn't let me see that.

First step to get out of the evil victimhood's claws is to take responsibility for your life. Every single aspect of it. If it happened, be responsible for it. I am not saying you should feel guilty or blame yourself,  because that's just adding another monster to the group, but it's up to you how you chose to react to the circumstance. You can't control your circumstances and other peoples actions, nor should you try, but you definitely can choose to respond to each event and person with mindfulness. Somebody can be rude to you and you can get frustrated and be rude back, but you also can just brush it off, not react towards it, therefor not switching on your "poor me" mentality of why people are always shitty to me. Remember, how people react to you is never about you, it's about their inner problems that they chose to reflect on you. If you chose to reflect back with conflict, well that just shows that you have the same or similar shit going on inside you, and again it's not to say that you are a bad person and I don't love you, it's just, use it as a self realisation tool, like :" Oh, that's interesting, I didn't know I have this, and that" and something like that..

When you start seeing every person and event as a teacher and reflection of you, life really gets interesting. For me already one of the most interesting things in life is learning about myself, how my mind and body works, who am I, who am I not, what I like and what I don't. Don't try to always control life's moments and get upset if things don't happen exactly as you wanted and planed them to unfold. To realise that I can use my own life as my greatest teacher to get to know myself better, has been really liberating and has made me more accepting of every moment. I believe that every moment is perfect as it is and I am exactly where I should be to learn whatever I need to learn.  Of course I am far from living it fully and I'm ok with that, I know shit takes time, patience and blah blah blah, but that  belief plus faith in God is my complete recipe for a beautiful life.

Love You,
Kris