We suffer. Life, from time to time, can be difficult, wether you like it or not. But what if I tell you that it doesn't have to be so hard. That as real as your problems might seem they are mostly created in your head? Meaning very often you make them bigger then they are in reality, or even more often then not, you create a problem where there is none. Why do we do that? Is it possible we like to suffer on some level? Well...
I believe there is some part of us, that little masochist part of us, that enjoys the pain. That part, that feels the pain is necessary to our existence. We think we want to let it go, but then we also cling to it like a little kid to his mommy's leg, not wanting her to go, because who is he without her? The pain becomes such an everyday thing, like a cup of coffee every morning with your newspaper, that you don't really notice it anymore. It enters your routine, and then slowly becomes your second nature.
It is that part of you that kind of enjoys being a victim. Of course I can't speak for everybody here, so i will take myself as an example. For a long time I enjoyed playing that, poor me, part. Being a bitchy, little princess, making everybody around her miserable, and blaming them for how she felt. And the craziest part is that those who are there for you the most, also get to suffer the most, like my poor mother, of course always forgiving like nothing happened.
I am still not 100% sure why i enjoyed playing that part, but there was something comforting in it, feeling sorry for myself. The funny thing though, that my life was great. Really! I was healthy, I was working a fun job, where I could travel and explore the world, I was supported and all was really well. But when you let yourself rest in that victim mindset, be assured, you will find what to bitch about. You will find problems where there are none.
Now, that i think about that, it's such a mind fuck. There is nothing to enjoy being a victim. Feeling sorry for myself kept me stuck in one place, like i was standing with both of my feet in quicksand, and there is no way out, just down. Not a good image to live by. I felt like everything was out of my control, like the whole world was against me. I created this whole another reality in my head, and it wasn't enjoyable.
With this example, I want you to see that almost all problems you create are done so in your head. Yeah, there are some real problems, different crazy illnesses and other life threatening situations, but really, if you are being honest with yourself, most of your problems are not that serious as you make them to be. By worrying about small things you create them bigger, you give them power, and then you don't notice how it just takes over your day. Maybe it all starts with a flat tire, then you are late for work, then you lose your wallet, and by now you are probably very pissed, and you say, Why me? What did I do? If this is the question that pops in your mind, there is a big possibility you are living in a victim mindset. You think somebody is punishing you, nothing is working out. Poor me.
But sometimes things just happen. Learn from them and grow. Struggle helps you to become more then you have even been. Overcoming a challenge can feel very rewarding, and gives you a sense of confidence in yourself. You feel like anything is possible. The world is not against you. Actually the opposite is true, these situations that you feel like victim in, if you learn to see them as opportunities to grow, your life will take on completely different colour and feel to it. As one smart person said: " Cars break. It just happens. Flat tire? Fix it. No big deal. " And that is how i suggest you to look at your life. Don't take it so seriously, stuff happens, things break, just laugh at it and keep proudly marching your way to greatness.
Thank You
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