We often hear that if you want to reach a goal in life you have to visualise it first. You have to see it come into fruition, you have to believe that it is possible, you have to dream big. And all that is really good, but if you don't take action into account, dream, big or small, will stay just that, a beautiful dream.
As for me I never had a problem with dreaming big, and neither it was difficult for me to see it all come true, but the most important part, action, doing something everyday to move closer to my goal, wasn't a part of my everyday routine. I was blindsided by all the New Age stuff I read, or maybe it was just my naiveness, that led me to believe that I can sit on the couch, imagine and visualise myself living the life I want, and it will somehow come knocking on my door saying:" Hey Kristine, it's me, your perfect Life, your answers too all the problems, your everything you asked for. Good job on sitting and dreaming me up! Good job on not believing those people who say that if you want to get something, you have to work hard for it. Good job on strongly believing that you don't have to do anything, just believe and be happy, and all will be well. After all life is suppose to be easy, right?"
I was waiting, and sitting, and waiting some more, but I never received that knock from Life. Was I disappointed? Yeah, big time. Imagine, believing that life works a certain way, for quite a while, and then one day waking up by a slap on your face and realising:" Fuck. What is this bullshit? Did I fall blindly into the trap without even questioning is it true or not? Life doesn't work like that? You actually have to work for things? Why did this approach of doing nothing seem so appealing to me and it seemed like the only way?" I couldn't answer it for a long time. I mean, I think, I knew the answer but I didn't want to admit it to myself. I chose to believe that everything in life should be easy breezy, just imagine and voila, because I was scared of hard work, I was, in two words, just fucking lazy. Ok that was three words. And now I can admit it to myself, which, I think, is already a big step in the right direction.
I had to find a new approach. A new way to pursue my life. I started to question, that maybe, just maybe, those people who worked towards their goals actually did something right? Maybe, just maybe, hard work isn't so scary as it sounds, and can be more rewarding then getting things without a sweat? Maybe, just maybe, hard work is the reward and result of it is just a nice touch? And then I slowly started seeing that the way I have lived before, was me believing into illusion, and actually getting everything easily in life is not that enjoyable after all. As crazy as it sounds, I have to admit it to be true.
Taking action is what life is about. It's where you learn what works and what doesn't. Yeah hard work might feel uncomfortable at first, but relaxing after day of working is much more enjoyable then doing nothing all day. It's like imagine you sitting on your couch and watching movies all day, yes it's ok but then you get bored, or you feel guilty that you haven't done anything, or, you work all day, come home tired but happy about how productive you were, you take off those shoes, sink into that comfy couch, and you feel like:" Aww, I so deserve this. This feels great." The second one is much more pleasurable experience then getting the same, couch and the movie, without working before. I stand strongly behind this belief, as I lived, movies all day, life for pretty long time before, and if I'm honest with myself now easy life and doing nothing isn't that fun after all.
I realised that if I do something I like and am passionate about, the hard work isn't so hard after all, because I am enjoying the process of learning. And then the light bulb thing happened, If everyday I work towards my goal, make steps in the direction, and approach it in the way that I enjoy the process, not only running after the end result, I eventually will get to where I want to be, plus it's not like I'm sitting and waiting, I am actually living and doing, and very much having a good time. I realised that no dream is too big if I commit to it, and am ready to work. I am taking responsibility for my life, therefore there is nobody to blame for things that don't work out. If something doesn't work, it's up to me to evaluate why, and adjust accordingly. So it means my life and my happiness is in my hands? YES! That is exactly what it means, and that is so much better then what I used to believe in. Doing vs sitting is what life is about.
Go out there and have some fun, don't be afraid to make mistakes, as that's just a part of learning process. Nobody who achieved greatness, did it in one day, they all started somewhere small, and moved up the ladder with patience. Trust, that if you are ready to work, life will be more then happy to present everything you want and even more. Believe in yourself, but also follow up with conscious actions, because what I realised dreaming alone is not enough.
Good Luck
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